In a split instant – in the slender space between just a couple of words – our lives change.
Some changes mount gradually, nearly imperceptibly, over time while others punch through like a slug to the gut.
Some (maybe many) we aren’t prepared to deal with.
We aren’t ready for the sharp redirection or the pain or the loss of control.
But even more crushing than the sudden shock of getting news we hate to hear is our spending so much precious time (and money and energy) concentrating on making sure we never hear it.
Ignoring the signs, avoiding the conversations, wasting the chances to connect.
Or making the blind assumption that big change only happens to other people; that as long as we can keep our house in order, keep doing the same things – the ‘right’ things – we’ll be OK. As long as we are calling all the shots, we’ll never get hurt.
The trouble is, of course, we aren’t calling all the shots. The truth is we will break. We will lose people who matter to us. Jobs and performances and relationships will end even though we think we couldn’t possibly live without them.
Instead of working so hard to make sure life only colors inside the lines, what if we worked on really understanding what it is we love – to do and to hear and to share – and focused on creating more of that while we can.
Then when we are confronted with stuff that jars us, when the hand of change slaps us across the face and snaps us into a new direction we didn’t see coming, at least we’ll already know how to love and be love and offer love.
Even the stuff we hate to hear can’t keep us from doing that.
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