One of the most life-giving, healing and beautiful skills daily meditation has taught me is not only to align consciously with peace energy for a set period of time but also how to stop filling in the blanks with insanity throughout the day.
You know: the blanks.
The blanks we don’t even realize exist because we bulldoze right on over them, filling them in with judgments, grizzly speculations and attack thoughts.
For the most part, we are not conscious of the blanks which is a damn shame because if we don’t see them, we can’t use them to our advantage.
Without realizing these little pockets of welcome exist, these moment to moment opportunities for healing and growth, we allow the ego to fill them in with the negative stuff we say to ourselves constantly, incessantly.
What might a blank look like if we could see it?
It would look like the split instant of neutral empty space right before we decide to say something cruel. It would feel like the way out of the grueling heaviness in our being while we are – say – doing the laundry while also silently waging a self-loathing war on ourselves in our minds.
All of the thoughts we have fill in the blanks that spell out our lives. The way we live them, the way we treat ourselves and treat other people.
When we meditate, we part the nonsense to reach the blanks and invite peace and love to fill them in instead of ego, fear and doubt.
But in the rush and the noise of daily life, the blanks get quickly crammed in with all the negative, (almost appallingly) vicious, judgmental stuff that hurts but we’re so used to it that we allow it to keep right on.
The wicked thing is that even as this wild mind-chomping is happening, we are nearly numb to it. And yet this self-inflicted spirit brutality is actively defining our lives and sabotaging our ability to own our sacred purpose in it.
The blanks are not the problem, of course, they are the opportunity. They are the empty spaces, the places where we have a choice to make if we could remember to slow down and harness them.
By taking the time to calm our incessant negative thoughts, we learn to recognize the immense power we have to change our experience.
Quite literally, every blank is another shot we get to take at creating peace.
If you take a day to really examine what fills in the blanks more often, though?
It’s a running tab of maniacal judgments.
“Today I will judge nothing that occurs.
I will be honest with myself today. I will not think that I already know what must remain beyond my present grasp. I will not think I understand the whole from bits of my perception, which are all that I can see. Today I recognize that this is so. And so I am relieved of judgments that I cannot make. Thus do I free myself and what I look upon to be in peace as God created us.”
A Course In Miracles, Lesson 243
Nothing knocks us off our spiritual game as quickly as judgment. We make up wild stories in our minds, completely unfounded and speculative, and so proceed to sever ourselves from Love.
To recognize this, though, is a game changer. To become conscious of those snap judgments is to seize a major opportunity to align with Love more fully and more often. It’s the way to actively experience the gorgeous love lights we truly are not just on the meditation pillow but inside the rawness of our everyday stuff.
There is a beautiful mantra I use in those moments when I catch myself judging. I am confident that it has absolutely saved me from more drama that you could possibly imagine because to recognize the blanks is to pull the plug on the ego.
To give Love a chance to enter the scene is to short-circuit the crazy.
Love, how would you have me see this?
Love will always rush to enter where it is welcome. Even if it’s in the midst of what seems like a mighty battle or hopeless situation where egos are spiraling out of control. If you give Love an entryway, however slight, Love is coming through.
No matter what your spiritual path or practice, this is where the rubber meets the road in terms of living a life of peace or a life of pain. This is living spirituality in the real world.
Letting go of judgment and attack is the recognition of our own power to turn the otherwise empty spaces over to Love, to our infinite capacity for peace, and allow the Spirit of the Highest Compassion to fill in the blanks instead.
Our thoughts are the only thing keeping us from the peace we truly seek. They are the only barrier or bridge to the peace the world so desperately needs.
What do you want your experience to be, angel?
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